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Parents, Pets, and Adulthood

In case you haven't figured it out yet, I'm a pet person. I am always more "myself" when I own and care for some sort of animal. That's the way I am, I've accepted that, and so have my friends.

My parents, on the other hand... well, there's a reason why I put off telling them about Roland.

Case in point: yesterday, I was walking by a yard sale, and I found a 30 gallon fish tank and stand with all the accoutrement for $10. Yes- ten dollars. The stand needed a fresh coat of paint, but I mean... that's giving the damn thing away! It's all glass, very sturdy, the filter even has a built in foamer chamber! Of course, after I got a verbal assurance from my neighbor that everything worked, I paid her the ten dollars and picked up the thing right away.

The stand is mostly repainted. There's a few little things I would like to add, but those can be done later- besides, I need some balsa wood for that (and there will be pictures, so keep your pants on). Today, I added the gravel, the water, the Java Ferns from my old betta bowl (RIP Levi- sorry I didn't catch your swimbladder problem in time), doused it with stress-zyme, and started up the filter. I'm going to let it stabilize for a few days, and maybe start adding fish on Tuesday or Wednesday.

While I'm not an advanced fishkeeper yet, I am not a novice aquarist. To some extent, I know what I'm doing, and if I ever think I'm getting myself into trouble, you can bet I will spam the fora with my issues.

And, like most things in my adult life, my parents seem to think I'm going to be incompetent at this. My bettas have lived at least three years per fish, including the ones that were sick when I got them, and I was working under adverse conditions (very limited space). I didn't tell them about the saltwater tank I had in grad school, because I knew they'd run with this again, though when they saw it, they didn't seem to knock my roommate for taking poor care of "his" fish. The last time that they know that I had a fish tank was when I was a kid- there were two goldfish in a 10 gallon tank- okay, okay, I was a stupid pet owner, but in my defense I WAS EIGHT and I think that at a quarter century I can do a LITTLE FRACKING BETTER THIS TIME.

*huff*

It's okay, though. They've always been way too overprotective of me. I just have to wait them out, and prove to them and myself that I am a responsible adult. They'll come around. Eventually. I can be patient.

Besides, a school of neon tetras are going to look great under that blue light.

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Ahhh, parents. My sister is 25 and recently had a spat with our mother for calling her and wanting to know what their "agenda" was for the trip to Nag's Head for my sister's friend's wedding. Jess informed our mom that she was an adult and was not required to report in, and...ohhh, the drama. I sympathize with you. Mom spazzes if I don't call her/return her calls for more than a day.

For what it's worth, I think you're probably a stellar pet person, from what you've written about Roland. Post picture of your feesh as soon as you get them, please, so I can squee with you. :)
Your parents are probably about my age. That doesn't mean we're invariably right.

If I may make a recommendation . . . you might want to read [info]singingnettle. She has fish and writes about them with wit and verve. I had no idea how much personality they have! I'm not suggesting you need advice -- I just think you might enjoy her amazing fish stories.
Will you post pictures when the tank is all set up and populated? I love looking at fish tanks, but it's too much of a commitment for me. I don't think I'll ever own one.